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cruelsummer
10-20-2004, 08:49 AM
Hi to all! I may have a little longer story, but I just wish that you take a little time reading this. You can call me Joe.

I was married with one kid, got separated from family to work in another country after a couple of years. Then finally got separated after a flickering communication and a tough battle with saving the last spark of hope in keeping the relationship with my wife after some more years. Had a couple of relationships then that did not last long, last one being really seriously madly .....whatever.... have tried traveling, have gotten busy with work, met new friends, met with a lot of people, have fallin' in and fallin' out of love....

Well, am a little teary-eyed, to be honest, while writing this one as emotions started pouring, am so emotional I guess. I have been contemplating about my life, being empty for most of the time. There must be something missing, there must be something that I want to do or something that I want to have but not certain about it. Guess, it has to do with moving on with my life....for which direction... I guess, I don't know.

Last time I had a serious relationship was a year ago which really had torn me apart, smashed my heart, shattered all my dreams and left me so very disenchanted. I never tried since then cuz til now I could still feel the pain, it's terribly... ugh... painful. Problem with me is that I always cling to things that I should have leave behind. Am hard to cope with serious affairs of the heart. I know how to love, I was there and out of there, I give more than I could get. And when I do fall in love, I really fall head-over-heels. Am already mid 30's and am starting to feel that life's running so fast and I always feel empty and so cold and all alone. I've been through all this for the past months and am trying to find some outlet to let it all out. Am exploding inside and I need some comfort. I have friends, who doesn't even know what's inside of me, they only see the cheerful mask, the easy-going-for-all-i-care attitude that I am. I wish that I could talk it out with someone, but am just so chicken-out to talk things personally, especially with friends who would never take it seriously. No-one does.

This is the first time I am writing or joining a forum... and just wishing, that I could find some solace...somehow...

Thanks so much in advance. :o

delboy
12-31-2004, 11:56 AM
Get some help in 2005.sincerly hope things have improved and you have realized this place isnt gonna help.Read the other threads :o Lonely people,some nice people,but wrong place wrong time,some asking to meet "ladies" :confused: come on! sort your site out here,is it a pick up joint or somewhere to chat,the two dont mix..

goblinfly
01-08-2005, 09:54 AM
much agree delboy, i was one of the first members, but all i've had since is foreigners giving me their email addys...

this place was i guess supposed to be a small community where everyone gets on and talks friendly, but the way it is set up makes it attract people that just wanna find potential gfriends/bfriends and then never come back.

cruelsummer i doubt very much that this is the kind of environment you need to be in to help you get through this rut, because believe me it IS the kinda thing that you can get through. personally from what you've said its more a state of mind than what actually happens to you.
its about how things affect you rather than what those things actually are. and to be honest that is merely programming, its how you have learnt to respond and it is in no way your fault, nor to be honest anybody elses.

what i suggest is that you find people, interests or hobbies that make you feel good about yourself...go out and do something.
but whatever happens concentrate on getting yourself stable before rushing into anything that could potentially put you down.

my words not gospel but i hope it helps. im not here to tell you what to do, just trying to help you find hope...because i think thats all your missing. good luck

huneybear
12-01-2005, 10:27 AM
Hi how are u, hope u are fine,, saw your profile and would like to be friends with u,, i am married,but no kids, and i live in canada, if interested please do send me a reply.. huneybear.